After a few coaching sessions, I perceive a lasting change and a strong movement towards the direction where I want to go as a father and a person. Parenting has become less stressful for me, and little by little I see how my children are responding and living with more inner peace, less impulsiveness, and with more kindness. Play between the siblings is more enjoyable, I notice an increase in kindness and respect between the children. We have also had short but great conversations about how they feel loved by me and how to best connect with each other.
The coaching with Drew has helped me to become more AWARE of myself, my thoughts, my feelings… which in turn helps me to actively change my thoughts and behaviour when I notice it going a direction where I do not desire to end up at. Not only that but to step away and not parent in the heat of things, but take time to let emotions calm down so reason can come in again. In short: most work (all the work) has to be done in me and on me; my change and behaviour will then reflect on the family. Ownership and leadership of myself are important. Included are also set priorities and a long term vision, personally and in parenting.
Drew has great insight and a keen perception of areas of tension or stress that can lead to disconnectedness from the family, which in turn cause stress and negative behaviour. I am deeply grateful for important tools learned and for insight gained. Awareness, ownership, assertiveness, and breathing have been game changers for me. Thanks Drew!
Shout out and Thank you to Drew Tupper. He spent an hour coaching me . It was the single best 1 hour I’ve invested in my role as a father and family man. I only cried 2 or 3 times through the interaction…
Through his motivational interviewing techniques, he led me to eye opening things about myself and how I interact with my children.
I realized that I wasn’t doing things wrong per se, but putting too much emphasis on raising good independent, strong, self reliant human beings. By doing that without the larger foundation of connection/love with me, I’m just pushing them away. Driving a wedge even between my wife and I with our different parenting styles. I had thought by preparing them and raising self reliant kids, that attention and teaching lessons is enough to feel the love. It’s not for a child, at least my children at this stage.
My wife had said it before that I just need to love them and not make everything a lesson. But until Drew worked through it with me, it didn’t click.
My takeaway this is to simply love them. Purposefully let go of teaching so many lessons right away. By doing this I think I can create that habit of love and a gentle response to just about anything. There is plenty of time to teach them lessons but never enough time to love them or possible to love them too much.
Already, I see it paying dividends. I’m better able to listen to the unmet needs of my children that trigger their tantrums or outbursts. Those outbursts are deescalated faster and it has been easier to find that common ground.
I am so thankful for Drew.
Drew has given me perspective, direction, and he is a wonderful example of the benefits of self examination. With Drew’s help, I have felt more at peace and connected, which has resulted in a calming effect on our household!
I would absolutely recommend Drew to anyone! He listens, asks the hard questions, and really cares! Drew is a parenting coach, but recognizes the need of the parents, as well. He taught me you can only provide a home that is as healthy as you are. This gave me the peace to spend some time focusing on my own healing. He truly is wonderful to work with!
“Drew was more than a facilitator, his aim was to empower and challenge. As parents it is wonderful to see this and it inspires us to go along this path too.”