parenting

The Pendulum Swings Wildly for some of us. Empathetic parents (and/or parents that struggle with boundaries and self regulation) can struggle with the Nasty Swinging Pendulum. Empathetic parents want to be attentive. They want to meet the needs of their children and to be there for them. But we also want to have some boundaries.…

Read more The Viscous Pendulum

๐€ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐œ๐ข๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐š ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐š๐ ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ง๐ž๐ซ๐ฏ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ ๐ž๐ญ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž. If a parent gets angry, avoidant, or judgemental, this can send a child into panic, into a fight, flight, freeze, flop fawn response. A child wants safety and secure attachment.…

Read more Not Really a Well Behaved Kid

If you treat your partner poorlyโ€ฆ If you successfully control him/herโ€ฆ if you nitpick and talk down to your partner and he or she takes itโ€ฆ Your partner will then likely do the same with your kids. And then your kids will also start doing it will each other. Lots of sibling rivalry is learned…

Read more SHIT FLOWS DOWNHILL

I struggle with this. I can get scared and catapulted into feeling shame and low self worth. When it happens it can result in blow ups and lack of connection. And a lack of trust in me. I have a hard time with the strong emotions of others, and certainly I have hard time with…

Read more Men, this is for you

Anxiety steals everything. Its steals your joy, your presence, and even your health. I want to live a joyful life. I want to be present with my loved ones. I want to be happy and healthy. So naturally I turned my attention toward dealing with the anxiety/stress monster. Anxiety is a constant perceiving of threat…

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The biggest investment you can make in your child is an investment in your own development as a parent. It pays dividends far into the future. Imagine what kind of impact you, your presence and your character has on a child. You are the model for mental, emotional, and physical health. You are the home,…

Read more Investing in Your Children

The day my first child was born, the inner child within me awoke. It makes sense that a child so close to me, my son, would have the power to do this. His beautiful little face, his vulnerable little body, his screams and his cries tugged at something deep within me, something I hadn’t felt…

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