The Conscious Dad Blog

My children’s behaviour was really important to me. I saw it as a direct reflection on me. Well behaved kids equaled good parenting is what I thought. Poorly behaved kids equaled bad parenting. I have come to recognize this as an insecure approach to parenting and I’ll tell you why. What I thought was strong, turned…

Read more Ego Driven Parenting

I’ve been part of various men’s groups, retreats and workshops. I’ve noticed an overriding theme that is consistent. There is a culture of emotional safety, personal responsibility, and support. It is this: growth comes from emotional safety (acceptance), personal responsibility (internal motivation), and consistent support (loving accountability). In these groups, emotional safety is created through…

Read more Supportive Homes – The real

Wouldn’t it be nice if our kids listened and then did what we asked? How is this more likely to happen? Here are some things that will help: Connect before you direct. Relate to and be interested in what your child is doing before giving instructions. Speak clearly and concisely. Choose your words wisely. Your words…

Read more Getting Your Kids to Listen

Here are the reasons children whine: # 1 Their needs aren’t being met, their tanks are low and they communicate their upset through behavior and tone of voice. # 2 There is a problem but they don’t have the knowledge, skills, or the option (or power) to fix it themselves. They communicate their upset through…

Read more Why Your Child Whines

…as you would have others do unto you. I had a conversation with another parent the other day. She mentioned a moment where her daughter spilled a glass of juice. Her typical response would have been to yell, to blame, to huff, snort or something like that, she said. In this particular moment she didn’t…

Read more Do Unto Your Children…

“The onus of responsibility for the smooth running of the family rests squarely upon the shoulders of the parents”. _________________________________________________ Leaders determine the success of an organization. This is the truth. The same thing can be said for leaders in families. Blaming children for a dysfunctional or stressed out family situation is like blaming Steve in the…

Read more The Truth about your Role as a Parent