1. Believe in Goodness. Is your child good or bad? What is her true nature? What is your perspective? How do you view your child when things get challenging? Is she trying to make your life hard or is she having a hard time? Loving leaders assume the best of their children. This doesn’t mean…
There is a leap of faith to be made. It’s edgy. The leap is this. Kids don’t need much pushing. If from an early age children were given choice, autonomy and support in pursuing their interests, their natural level of initiative and motivation will be really healthy and present, perhaps more so than children who…
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I have to warn you of something. Be wary of the toxic cocktail. It breeds power struggles and disconnection. This is what it is: too much helping of a child followed by blaming and shaming a child. It makes it really difficult for a child to want to attempt things on their own. It plays…
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Parents often say that getting their kids to listen to them is their top challenge. It was my top challenge too. Something that helped me was to look at leadership. After-all, parenting is leadership. And truth be told, there are better leaders than others. There are leaders who are respected, listened to, and celebrated. There…
I used to think my children should do whatever I said whenever I said it. I had more power than them and wanted them to respect it or at least be fearful of it. Secretly, I also wanted the satisfaction of being able to control them. It felt satisfying in some way to wield power.…
Do you have a strong willed, sensitive and intelligent child? These powerful little people want to take on the world and do things on their own terms. This can be challenging. At their core these children want to feel, taste and breathe life. They want experience it. However, they want their own experience of it. Good…
The Brotherhood of Dads is a Free Facebook Community to support and encourage Dads in becoming the best they can be. Parenting is the most important job in the world. What we do and how we do it has such and important impact on the live of our children. If you are a Dad who…
This blog is for parents who have been through power struggles with their children and want to do things differently. Step one: Are you willing to acknowledge that you may have a role to play in these power struggles? Do you yourself like to have control? If so, you may be able to learn from…
Children’s behavior is a reflection of how they are feeling on the inside. This is true for all of us, but especially children. They don’t hide things as well as adults can. So, if your child is demonstrating difficult or “bad” behavior, that means something is going on for him/her. If you can play detetive…
Leading by example is hard. Broadly speaking, I hope to teach my children 2 things. To love themselves. This means being true to themselves, accepting themselves, being responsible for themselves, and believing in themselves. To love others. This means being true to others, accepting others, empowering others, and believing in others. I have to teach…
