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𝐀 𝐥𝐨𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐚 𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞. If a parent gets angry, avoidant, or judgemental, this can send a child into panic, into a fight, flight, freeze, flop fawn response. A child wants safety and secure attachment.…

Read more Not Really a Well Behaved Kid

“Self-betrayal is the result of conditional love — we learn to deny parts of ourselves in order to be loved, not for who we are but the version they approve of. We are supported or accepted when we met their approval, but our parents removed their love when we didn’t perform in a way that…

Read more Authentic Self vs Conditioned Self

If you treat your partner poorly… If you successfully control him/her… if you nitpick and talk down to your partner and he or she takes it… Your partner will then likely do the same with your kids. And then your kids will also start doing it will each other. Lots of sibling rivalry is learned…

Read more SHIT FLOWS DOWNHILL

I struggle with this. I can get scared and catapulted into feeling shame and low self worth. When it happens it can result in blow ups and lack of connection. And a lack of trust in me. I have a hard time with the strong emotions of others, and certainly I have hard time with…

Read more Men, this is for you

Anxiety steals everything. Its steals your joy, your presence, and even your health. I want to live a joyful life. I want to be present with my loved ones. I want to be happy and healthy. So naturally I turned my attention toward dealing with the anxiety/stress monster. Anxiety is a constant perceiving of threat…

Read more Beat Anxiety

The biggest investment you can make in your child is an investment in your own development as a parent. It pays dividends far into the future. Imagine what kind of impact you, your presence and your character has on a child. You are the model for mental, emotional, and physical health. You are the home,…

Read more Investing in Your Children

The day my first child was born, the inner child within me awoke. It makes sense that a child so close to me, my son, would have the power to do this. His beautiful little face, his vulnerable little body, his screams and his cries tugged at something deep within me, something I hadn’t felt…

Read more Reparenting Yourself

I work with a lot of coaches. This is an understatement, because I am surrounded by coaches in both my professional and social life. They are my clients, but also my friends. I do technical production for probably the best coaching school teaching enrollment (CFJ Coaching Success School), and I both worked for and graduated…

Read more Device Free (Retreat) by Shannon Lloyd

Acceptance and love of yourself is the only way you will ever be able to have a deep and meaningful relationship with someone. You cannot accept others if you don’t accept you. Accepting yourself and your experience is the precursor to being able to accept others. It’s like a key to a lock. Without learning…

Read more How to have Deep and Harmonious Relationships