Two weeks of “Mature and Positive Parent” isn’t going to cut it. Kids need to know that the positivity and maturity is CONSISTENT and trustable. Yes, it could take months or years to gain back the trust of a child who has been hurt, blamed, shamed, who has been an outlet for the parent’s pain.…
The top ways to address conflict in general are to: 1. Attend to your child’s emotional needs: safety, connection/attention, autonomy… The more we meet the natural needs of a child, the less they will have to protest via their behavior. 2. Model cooperative and problem solving behavior as the parent…The more we set the tone…
“You are wrong. I don’t understand you. You don’t make sense”…is toxic messaging inside a relationship. It leads to relationship breakdown whether it’s a spouse or child. If you invalidate someone enough, they will pull away from you, if only energetically. Yes, you might still be in relationship, or live in the same home, but…
In a triggered moment (a while back), I noticed a quick and yet powerful thought that occured that led to my own reactive behavior. If you blink you’ll miss it. I played detective. I looked at what behavior of my child’s (or partner’s) put me over the edge. This led me to discover the…
🤔Thought Experiment 🤔 What kind of organization would you love to work for, an organization that you would describe to your friends as amazing? Imagine not so much the actual work, but the atmosphere or tone when you walk in those doors? What does it feel like to be at work? What is…
Listen to yourself, love yourself, be yourself Listen to others, love others, be with others That’s it.
If we do not empower strong willed children to their own independence and freedom, they will find something to push against and will push away from the parent. They will fight for their freedom and autonomy if we do not grant it. Good for them! 💪 They will build a case against the…
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First and foremost, outside of the upset moment, develop your own practice of breathing and calming yourself. Know how to get grounded and self regulated. Intellectually knowing this is VERY different from doing it. You must DO it. I use deep long slow belly breaths. I pause at the top and bottom of the breath,…
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When we leave home and go out in public, accountability on our behaviour automatically increases. We go out in to the world where others are watching, where there are norms and rules that are enforced. We go the bank, to the store and to work, where there are clear standards of behavior. There are varying…
I am thrilled to announce that I’ll be speaking at The Conscious Communication (Creating Healthy Relationships) Summit 2020. The Summit is from Feb. 15 – 23rd. It is organized by Gina and Coy Heath from The Purpose Collective. I’d love for you to attend. Join us in co-creating healthy parenting and partnership practices. Join us…
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