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My children’s behaviour was really important to me. I saw it as a direct reflection on me. Well behaved kids equaled good parenting is what I thought. Poorly behaved kids equaled bad parenting. I have come to recognize this as an insecure approach to parenting and I’ll tell you why. What I thought was strong, turned…

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I’ve been part of various men’s groups, retreats and workshops. I’ve noticed an overriding theme that is consistent. It is this: growth comes from emotional safety (acceptance), personal responsibility (internal motivation), and consistent support (loving accountability). In these groups, how we deal with people is to offer listening and then support. The listening is non-judgmental and…

Read more Supportive Homes – The real

Wouldn’t it be nice if our kids listened and then did what we asked? How is this more likely to happen? Here are some things that will help: Connect before you direct. Relate to and be interested in what your child is doing before giving instructions. Speak clearly and concisely. Choose your words wisely. Your words…

Read more Getting Your Kids to Listen

Here are the reasons children whine: # 1 Their needs aren’t being met and they don’t have the knowledge, skills, or the option (or power) to fix it themselves. #2 They don’t have the language to put it all together in a coherent mature sentence and ask for the right kind of help that will…

Read more Why Your Child Whines

I know adults that struggle with feelings of not feeling good enough, not feeling acceptable, or they feel they need someone else’s approval in order for them to feel okay. How does this happen? A sober thought crossed my mind: Could the answer lie in parenting? Do parents inadvertently teach children that they are not…

Read more Good The Way We Are

…as you would have others do unto you. I had a conversation with another parent the other day. She mentioned a moment where her daughter spilled a glass of juice. Her typical response would have been to yell, to blame, to huff, snort or something like that, she said. In this particular moment she didn’t…

Read more Do Unto Your Children…

For myself, I’ve noticed one of three things is happening: 1. I’m carrying stress over from other parts of my life into the current moment. This primarily happens when I perceive that something negative has happened to me. The fix is to deal with these unsavoury moments… in the moment, rather than bringing it home.

This…

Read more Why You Get Mad at Your Kids

“The onus of responsibility for the smooth running of the family rests squarely upon the shoulders of the parents”. _________________________________________________ Leaders determine the success of an organization. This is the truth. The same thing can be said for leaders in families. Blaming children for a dysfunctional or stressed out family situation is like blaming Steve in the…

Read more The Truth about your Role as a Parent