Here is How: Think like a leader. Imagine a leader who has influence with his/her team and the team willingly cooperates, maybe excitedly even. What are the qualities of that leader? Confused? Okay, what kind of leadership do you respond to? What is the best way for someone to engage you and your cooperation?When do…
𝐎𝐥𝐝 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐠𝐦:: When my child does something hurtful or makes a mistake, I must somehow instill in them the wrongness of their actions. They should feel wrong and bad about what they did. It is through really feeling bad that they will learn how to behave properly. I can make them feel bad by punishing,…
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Understand this —> All of your behavior comes from your emotion. All of your reactive, angry, short tempered behavior comes from challenging emotions that you are having a hard time recognizing and processing. If you learn how to recognize and process your emotions, you will master your emotions….and your behavior. This is so much better…
(Especially if your relationship leans toward too close, comfortable… and codependent) 1. Become attractive to yourself. It will be hard for you to feel sexy and for your partner to find you sexy, if you don’t feel attractive to you. What do you have to do to become sexy to you? 2. Get resourced outside…
Let’s say my son gets short with my daughter. He uses a crappy tone with her, he’s judgy, and tells her off for something. Now… a tendency of mine can be to protect her and to tell him off. To be short with him, and snappy. (to use a crappy tone really). Do you see…
If you are a nice guy, you likely are not in a sexually fulfilling, or otherwise fulfilling relationship. Why? – Nice guys seek approval above all else– Nice guys are needy– Nice guys are indirect– Nice guys are actually manipulative and controlling– Nice guys are transactional– Nice guys lack self love and confidence– Nice guys…
You want to raise children who will come to you when they get into trouble. You want to raise kids who you have a good relationship with, especially as your child gets older and life gets more and more challenging to navigate for the child. You want your children to be able to trust you…
Here is the way I deal with my kids upset when it occurs at home: I Calm Myself: I think to myself; “I am safe. I can handle this. Show your child what calm looks like.” I Connect with my Child: I move closer slowly. I make eye contact. I smile gently. I touch an…