Observing and accepting the emotional experience of yourself and your child might be the secret to calm and skillful parenting. When you observe and accept, you diffuse reactionary responses in yourself and your child. When you accept your emotions it means really acknowledging and becoming aware of them. When you become aware of your own…
Here is the truth: I yell at my children NOT because of their behavior. I yell because of how I feel inside. I let their behavior lead to an uncomfortable feeling inside of me. That is because I attribute to the behavior something incorrect. In my mind I make it mean something (threatening) that it…
Lack of respect and getting their kids to listen to them is often the top challenge for parents. There was a time that this was my top challenge too. Here is what I did to address it and completely turn things around for the better. I approached parenting as a leadership position. I took what…
“What do you want to be when you grow up?” I never liked this question. I think it’s limiting. Here is why. 😲 It focuses on a job/career as a person’s identity. 😀 Who a person is more important that what job they have. 😲 It focuses on coming up with an answer that would…
I don’t say this to bash gentle Parenting people, but as a cautionary tale. I have heard there is no such thing as too much love or connection for a child. This is what some gentle/attachment parents say. Yes there is. (In a way). Stay with me. There are parents who consider themselves to be…
To the parents who are trying but feel it’s not enough: There will be times when you make mistakes. For me…I will make many more mistakes. In these moments, we all have a choice to make. We can give ourselves compassion or judgement. I’m hoping that you choose compassion, for you and your children. My…
Most of the time you are kind and in control, but once in a while you lose your shit and get really negative and toxic. In quiet moments, you understand the impact that your negativity is having on your children, but you decide to ignore that reality, hoping that things will just somehow change…or that…
Dear Dad/Husbands When we feel sadness, it moves on. When we feel it, it gets processed and doesn’t linger. I know that many of us were taught not to feel our sadness, but today, I’d like to talk about the emotions of the loved ones in our lives. Do you find it easy to…
Begin with the End in Mind: Ask yourself the big questions. Am I parenting in a way now that will lead to the greatest most holistic success for my child in the future? Am I parenting in a way now that will result in a healthy mutually loving/respectful relationship with my child for years to…
Time outs, yelling, taking things away, rewards… Are these tactics not working with your child? Let me guess: Is your child strong willed and sensitive, but also intelligent, creative and funny? If you are struggling with a spirited child, read on. 👉 I appreciate the effort and different approaches you are trying. It can be…
