There are some overt ways that we can shame our children. You can probably guess what they sound like. Here are a few phrases that heap on the contempt and shame: – What the hell were you thinking?– What’s wrong with you?– Who do you think you are?– You are so rude/bad/lazy….– I wish you…
Good Job!!!“Good job” can be like a throw away phrase. You don’t even have to look at your kid… You can just say good job while you glance up from your computer.Also if it’s the only thing a parent says in response to a child looking for feedback… A lot of good opportunities are missed.…
If I were to take a guess as to why a lot sibling rivalry occurs it would be this. First of all, I think a certain amount of conflict is natural and healthy… But I’m talking about ongoing persistent, hurtful and getting in the way of a generally peaceful home type of conflict. My guess…
The apple may not fall far from the tree. 🍎🌳. If your child is defensive, and combative, you may be defensive and combative and hurt too. (That’s what defensiveness is. It’s hurt and pain bottled up and then projected out). In essence, the environment (the parent’s own hurt and defensiveness) can teach the child how…
How to deal with a child who is defensive and does not take well to correction? If this is the case, the child may have been over corrected or been corrected in a way that lacks connection. Eventually, enough of this kind of correction will lead to a loss of relationship capital. The parent will…
“Ｉ ＮＥＥＤ ＹＯＵ ＴＯ _______ “ In the context of parenting, I don’t use this phrasing. It doesn’t feel right. In general, I don’t actually “need” my child to finish his vegetables or to have a shower. I definitely have needs. But they don’t so much involve my children. Also, I see them as my…
“When my child whines and cries it drives me nuts and I want to either shut them down or avoid them” It looks like the child’s distress causes you distress. If we parents (when we were children) never learned to fully SELF regulate, to identify and balance our own emotions, then we as adults will…
There are no Tips and Tricks to get your child to stop being rude, behaving badly and to be kinder and more cooperative. The problem is bigger than TIPs or tricks. The truth is (with few exceptions) this: If there is an ongoing challenge in your home with behavior, is it is deeper than simple…
😟😤𝙿𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚍 𝚘𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚖𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚟𝚎𝚜: 𝙳𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚎𝚡𝚎𝚛𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚎 (𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦)😤😤 Write a letter to yourself expressing, empathy, validation, and compassion…to you.I know that you might think that you have to be hard on you, but more being hard on yourself likely isn’t going to get you where you want to go. It may…
Have you ever had a hard time setting limits with your child? I have. I have had a hard time wondering what kind of limit is appropriate and also being consistent, and helping my children understand the bigger picture. So, I created a series of questions to get me/you thinking. Answer these questions and you’ll…
