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How much of the bully/victim dynamic is learned at home? What do you think? From what I have seen, kids act out what they have experienced, and what they have learned. It makes sense. The only question is, where do our children learn how to bully and be bullied? Could interactions at home effect the…

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The Myth: Our number one job as parents is to get kids to do as we say, learn how to mind their manners, be nice, and not cause trouble. If we do this, they will turn out to be good people. The Truth: Compliant children do not necessarily make “good” adults. Compliance can come at…

Read more The Obedience Myth

This blog post explores the ideas behind “You make me…” Have you ever used the phrase, or something similar to “You make me angry” in situations where you are annoyed or angry with your child? I have. Often, we’ll say, “You make me” when things aren’t going so well, when we think our kids are…

Read more Own your Stuff, Parents

So many parents have a hard time dealing with their children’s misbehavior. Parents are exhausted and drained, and angry, no doubt. Heated discussions can flare up about what to do and how to get our kids to listen. I’ve heard many-a-Dad make the case for tougher love…wanting to do something that will make an impression,…

Read more To Spank or not to Spank?

I used to think that tough love was the way to go. I used to think that the way to being a good parent was to have a firm grip and finger tip control over my kids. Because of this thinking, my children’s behaviour was really important to me. I saw it as a direct reflection…

Read more Is Tough-Love Good Love?