“Maternal gatekeeping,โ when moms control dads interactions with their children, and decisions about children. Some moms can gatekeep access to kids and control how things are done with respect to the children. They can assume a position of ultimate authority and disregard what dad says. They can disregard valid concerns about how the kids are…
The Pendulum Swings Wildly for some of us. Empathetic parents (and/or parents that struggle with boundaries and self regulation) can struggle with the Nasty Swinging Pendulum. Empathetic parents want to be attentive. They want to meet the needs of their children and to be there for them. But we also want to have some boundaries.…
๐ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐๐ข๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ซ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ง๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ฆ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ญ ๐๐๐ง ๐ ๐๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐. If a parent gets angry, avoidant, or judgemental, this can send a child into panic, into a fight, flight, freeze, flop fawn response. A child wants safety and secure attachment.…
โSelf-betrayal is the result of conditional love โ we learn to deny parts of ourselves in order to be loved, not for who we are but the version they approve of. We are supported or accepted when we met their approval, but our parents removed their love when we didnโt perform in a way that…
If you treat your partner poorlyโฆ If you successfully control him/herโฆ if you nitpick and talk down to your partner and he or she takes itโฆ Your partner will then likely do the same with your kids. And then your kids will also start doing it will each other. Lots of sibling rivalry is learned…
I struggle with this. I can get scared and catapulted into feeling shame and low self worth. When it happens it can result in blow ups and lack of connection. And a lack of trust in me. I have a hard time with the strong emotions of others, and certainly I have hard time with…
Anxiety steals everything. Its steals your joy, your presence, and even your health. I want to live a joyful life. I want to be present with my loved ones. I want to be happy and healthy. So naturally I turned my attention toward dealing with the anxiety/stress monster. Anxiety is a constant perceiving of threat…
The biggest investment you can make in your child is an investment in your own development as a parent. It pays dividends far into the future. Imagine what kind of impact you, your presence and your character has on a child. You are the model for mental, emotional, and physical health. You are the home,…
The day my first child was born, the inner child within me awoke. It makes sense that a child so close to me, my son, would have the power to do this. His beautiful little face, his vulnerable little body, his screams and his cries tugged at something deep within me, something I hadn’t felt…
Codependency. Healing from this is essential in order to find and have mature and loving relationships that are sustainable.