One of the things that see in coaching parents who want to go from angry to calm and connected is this: a lot of anger comes from resentment. The resentment comes from one’s life not going the way he or she wants. Work, relationships, health, even how they parent…none of it is quite working out…
What if most of the work of parenting was not to correct our children when they did something wrong, but an ongoing effort to help children learn about themselves and their place in the world so that they naturally chose to do good things for themselves and others? It’s a bit of leap of faith…
Wouldn’t it be nice if our kids listened and then did what we asked? How is this more likely to happen? Here are some things that will help: Connect before you direct. Relate to and be interested in what your child. Enter their world and build some rapport before giving instructions. Speak clearly and concisely. Choose…
We’ve all been involved in important projects. Key aspects to successful projects include planning, focus, and accountability. All of the parents that I have coached say that their family is their most important priority of all. Of all the parents I’ve spoken to, nearly all of them say that (after physical health) their relationship with their…
Dads often say that lack of patience and anger is their top challenge. It was my top challenge too. Something that helped me was to look at leadership. After-all, parenting is leadership. And truth be told there are better leaders than others. There are leaders who are respected, listened to, and celebrated. Could it the…
What are you worried about? What hangs over your head? Inside the answer to this question, you will find an opportunity for growth, growth away from stagnation, toward empowerment. What you are worried about can highlight where you are stuck. It is where you hold on to unproductive thoughts and spend energy best used elsewhere. When…
This is letter is in response to a parent looking for some help on dealing with a disrespectful child. For me, there was no bigger step I could have taken than reevaluating my view of my child. That’s what this one letter is about. Question: My daughter disrespects me and doesn’t listen to me. When…
Have you ever heard yourself say to your hurt or upset child something along the lines of “Don’t Cry! You’re okay. Up you get. You’re fine.” Have you tried to distract your child or make them laugh when they are really having a hard time? I have, especially to my son. Hmm. I wonder why?…
How do you encourage good habit forming in your children? It’s not easy. There is a lot to it, both for the parent and the child. Here are some things to help your kids learn good habits. Perspective Strong relationship Good agreements Real ownership Consistency Here is #1 – Perspective What do you see? What…
Having children for me has been more of a personal/spiritual journey than I could have ever imagined. This is how it went; my thought process boiled down: Oh wow my kids are good. They are pure of heart. They were born this way. There is nothing wrong with them. I should really do my best…
