Let’s say I was able to go back in time and talk to my old self. Past Drew would not like all this talk of self-regulation and personal responsibility. It was clear to Past Drew that the kids were the problem. Past Drew spent a lot of time worried about the behavior of his children.…
Toxic parenting leads to toxic relationships later on. How kids learn to relate when they are young repeats itself later on in adult partner relationships. Toxic parenting sounds like this: – You are making me sad/frustrated…. – Do this for mommy – You’re not sad. Stop crying. You are just trying to…. – If you…
Much conflict results from someone wanting something (or wanting to be heard), and feeling like they cannot get it from someone. Let’s take a look at what doesn’t work. What tends to intensify the conflict or prolong it is when someone communicates like this: – I don’t want to hear you (interrupt or speaking over)…
“I say this with love: Let go of the story of having such a difficult or disrespectful child. It’s not helping. Telling this story again and again has you looking for problems rather than solutions. It has you creating your own stressed out reality and strained relationship with your child. Your energy goes more to…
Addicted to your own toxicity? There is an addictive quality to playing the victim, power tripping, yelling, blaming, also guilting and shaming someone else. There is an addictive quality to making someone else wrong and responsible for your feelings. You think it will make you feel better, but it never does in the end. A…
I personally love the idea of having specific challenges and rising to a challenge. Having parents and mentors who have challenged me has changed my life so much for the better. Peaceful parenting or Conscious parenting is not void of challenge. From my experience, children like challenge and like people to challenge and encourage them. …
All of your relationships are a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself. You are the common denominator. Your relationships are a mirror for how you think about yourself and treat yourself. This is especially true for close relationships like with spouses or children. So? What do your outward relationships indicate about the inner…
Please be gentle and kind with me. I am young. I am learning. Have patience please. I will learn. I am developing and it’s hard sometimes to listen and to remember. I don’t mean to disrespect you or anger you. That is never my intention. My motives are pure and innocent. I don’t want to…
For those who struggle with anger or reactivity, here are 2 strategies that help. It’s super simple. There is more to emotional mastery, but this is a great start. 1. Identify your emotions, especially when you’re feeling angry, sad, upset, worried, or other challenging emotions. Take a productive pause, take a breath, and name your…
If you are a leader and model to your children at home (and you are), what kind of tone are you setting for them to follow? How are they learning to think, feel and act based on what they see from you. If you were to observe you, what would you say? What kind of…
