The biggest investment you can make in your child is an investment in your own development as a parent. It pays dividends far into the future. Imagine what kind of impact you, your presence and your character has on a child. You are the model for mental, emotional, and physical health. You are the home,…
The day my first child was born, the inner child within me awoke. It makes sense that a child so close to me, my son, would have the power to do this. His beautiful little face, his vulnerable little body, his screams and his cries tugged at something deep within me, something I hadn’t felt…
Codependency. Healing from this is essential in order to find and have mature and loving relationships that are sustainable.
I work with a lot of coaches. This is an understatement, because I am surrounded by coaches in both my professional and social life. They are my clients, but also my friends. I do technical production for probably the best coaching school teaching enrollment (CFJ Coaching Success School), and I both worked for and graduated…
Acceptance and love of yourself is the only way you will ever be able to have a deep and meaningful relationship with someone. You cannot accept others if you don’t accept you. Accepting yourself and your experience is the precursor to being able to accept others. It’s like a key to a lock. Without learning…
I think that the big wound most of us have is separation from self and our own acceptability or worthiness (loveability). The big wound is Shame. It results in living a life of either subtle or overt rejection of oneself. It plays out in different ways, all the way from limiting beliefs, self sabotage, seeking…
The Inner critic can hold us down like a heavy anchor. Limiting Beliefs limit our progress, growth and enjoyment of life. – Beliefs are so powerful that they dictate our entire lives. – They can stop us from discovering who we truly are, putting roadblocks in our way. They can steer us in one direction…
They give and give, but not from a genuine place. They give to get: acceptance, approval…recognition. The giving comes with preconditions. They strike unspoken deals: “I’ll over-give, I will over-perform if you recognize me and how good I am, and how much work I do”. “I’ll over-give so long as you put up with my…
Our lives changed dramatically. We wanted to be good parents, so we poured into our kids. We were attentive and affectionate, and still are. But those early years demanded a lot of our energy. It was hard. There were moments I got angry, sad, and resentful. Generally my feelings were positive toward my family. I…
Do you have an angry or emotional partner? Do you try to keep the peace? Do you somehow think that you might even cause their anger? Maybe you heard something like this when you were young: – If you keep on whining, I’m going to get really angry! – I didn’t want to get angry,…