How do you encourage good habit forming in your children? It’s not easy. There is a lot to it, both for the parent and the child. Here are some things to help your kids learn good habits. Perspective Strong relationship Good agreements Real ownership Consistency Here is #1 – Perspective What do you see? What…
Having children for me has been more of a personal/spiritual journey than I could have ever imagined. This is how it went; my thought process boiled down: Oh wow my kids are good. They are pure of heart. They were born this way. There is nothing wrong with them. I should really do my best…
This is the core wound many of us have…and sadly pass on. Above all else, children want to feel affection and acceptance from their parents and caregivers. This is what most parents instinctively give their new babies. I know that my instinct was to hold and cuddle, to deeply gaze at, and to speak gently…
I don’t think praising or external rewards will ruin our children. Being recognized for accomplishments from your family, community, and work place is commonly done, and can be done tactfully. If done in an appreciative and genuine manner, it tends to be more connecting than bestowing approval upon someone. The problem is that praise has…
I hope to teach my children… To love themselves, be true to themselves, be responsible for themselves, and believe in themselves…and then to act from this place, always. Then, to love others, be true to others, empower others, and believe in others…and then act from this place, always. Parents teach this by BEING this. How…
I knew that I wasn’t providing the best, most stable and loving environment possible. I wanted to do better. I implemented exercises to increase my self awareness and self control. I outlined my values, and implemented strategies to stick to them. I got on the right path and still regularly reflect upon my hopes and…
Own your behavior fully and completely. Owning your behavior means not making excuses for it. Owning your behavior means not blaming someone else for it. Owning your behavior focuses on your actions, not on the actions of someone else. The reason why you lost your cool is not because someone made you lose your cool.…
Looking back, I had no idea that having kids would bring to the surface so many intense emotions and judgement that was simmering inside of me. But, kids have this remarkable ability to poke at our sore spots relentlessly. It felt like my hot buttons were constantly being pushed. I was not ready for this.…
When I finally stopped blaming my kids and my situation for my poor parenting choices, I felt a heavy weight of responsibility. These are the thoughts that ran through my head: “What have I done?” “Why is this so hard?” “Why can’t I control myself?” “Why can’t I be better than I am being?” “I…
Fathers, Listen to your daughters. Hear them. Really hear them. Spend time with them and be 100 per cent present. Ask their opinion on things. Listen to their no’s and their yes’s. From what age you ask? From birth. A little girl who has grown up being respected, valued, and loved will look for this…
