Dear Husband

You are going to lose us. I love you but you have to get yourself in check.

I want to have this family with you. I want to do life with you, but the way that you behave at home is creating lots of stress and extra work for me.

I feel like I can’t trust you with the kids. I feel like I can’t leave you alone and trust that you’ll be mature and positive with them.

You are losing your temper way too much. It’s not good for the kids. It’s not good for their self esteem or their development.

It’s not teaching our kids the right things. They are starting to yell and be negative. I don’t want a home like that.

You say you want to have a good relationship with the kids and that you want them to be able to come to you and talk to you about anything. You are losing their trust. You are damaging your relationship with them.

I know you are frustrated. I know you want to be a good dad. I know you didn’t have a great role model.

I want to help. I have tried to help. I don’t know what else to do. I can’t do anymore.

This is something you need to figure out. This is your responsibility.

Maybe the best thing I can do is to let you know that you are losing us. I don’t want to be hurtful. I am trying to be patient. But I have my limits and I have to protect our kids.

We deserve the best of you.

Please, for the sake of the family, for you own sake, get some help and guidance on this.

(A number of my women client’s have written a letter like this and a number of my men client’s have received a letter like this. It is a gift. It is heartfelt and honest. And it provides a clear opportunity for positive change.)

Dad, are you ready to change?

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