Acceptance and love of yourself is the only way you will ever be able to have a deep and meaningful relationship with someone. You cannot accept others if you don’t accept you. Accepting yourself and your experience is the precursor to being able to accept others. It’s like a key to a lock. Without learning…
I think that the big wound most of us have is separation from self and our own acceptability or worthiness (loveability). The big wound is Shame. It results in living a life of either subtle or overt rejection of oneself. It plays out in different ways, all the way from limiting beliefs, self sabotage, seeking…
The Inner critic can hold us down like a heavy anchor. Limiting Beliefs limit our progress, growth and enjoyment of life. – Beliefs are so powerful that they dictate our entire lives. – They can stop us from discovering who we truly are, putting roadblocks in our way. They can steer us in one direction…
They give and give, but not from a genuine place. They give to get: acceptance, approval…recognition. The giving comes with preconditions. They strike unspoken deals: “I’ll over-give, I will over-perform if you recognize me and how good I am, and how much work I do”. “I’ll over-give so long as you put up with my…
Our lives changed dramatically. We wanted to be good parents, so we poured into our kids. We were attentive and affectionate, and still are. But those early years demanded a lot of our energy. It was hard. There were moments I got angry, sad, and resentful. Generally my feelings were positive toward my family. I…
Do you have an angry or emotional partner? Do you try to keep the peace? Do you somehow think that you might even cause their anger? Maybe you heard something like this when you were young: – If you keep on whining, I’m going to get really angry! – I didn’t want to get angry,…
You might have a highly sensitive child, (or you may be highly sensitive yourself) if you see some of the following: – Bothered by their clothing tags, uncomfortable fabrics, tight-fitting clothing– Overwhelmed by lights, sounds, and smells – Aware of and affected by changes in the environment – Aware of and affected be people’s moods–…
You are going to lose us. I love you but you have to get yourself in check. I want to have this family with you. I want to do life with you, but the way that you behave at home is creating lots of stress and extra work for me. I feel like I can’t…
Some children learn to play younger or less capable than they are. They get lots of help and support and become used to it. A child who has been over-supported in the past may equate your level as support as the amount of love you have for them.If you realize that you have been oversuporting,…