๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐๐๐ง ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐’๐ฌ ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฌ๐๐ญ? ๐๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฆ, ๐จ๐ซ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฆ ๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ง. ๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง๐๐ซ๐๐๐ข๐๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ . ๐ ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐๐๐ฏ๐ข๐๐!! Here is my advice: Accept that in those meltdown moments, you doing “nothing” is often better than doing something. Your job is to be present and…
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Our feelings come from our thinking about a situation, or the meaning we personally make of it. (Often, this interpretation of a situation, the “meaning making” happens so quickly that it is hard to catch) When you get upset and reactive with your child, you have made meaning of their behavior, and it’s not a…
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There are some overt ways that we can shame our children. You can probably guess what they sound like. Here are a few phrases that heap on the contempt and shame: – What the hell were you thinking?– What’s wrong with you?– Who do you think you are?– You are so rude/bad/lazy….– I wish you…
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Good Job!!!โGood jobโ can be like a throw away phrase. You donโt even have to look at your kidโฆ You can just say good job while you glance up from your computer.Also if itโs the only thing a parent says in response to a child looking for feedbackโฆ A lot of good opportunities are missed.…
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