Emotional safety and connection
However! Because of parental stress, parents don’t notice these issues for what they are, and the problem persists and persists. The behavior gets worse and worse because the real issues are not being addressed. Family life becomes just another stress to add to an already stressful life. This is not the idea of a happy home that we envision. Home is supposed to be a refuge, a place to connect and reset.
To make things worse, so many parents feel bad about not being able to deal with their children, like they should somehow just know what to do. Well, this is not really fair. We are being a bit hard on ourselves here. Where else in the world, in what other skill or arena would we expect to just be good at something with no real experience or previous learning. Not to mention, parenting is a highly complex skill with a lot of moving parts.
When the real issues get addressed, huge improvements can been made and peace becomes possible. For real.