What do I want for my kids? Who do I want them to be? What do I want from this parenting thing? What is my job as a parent? Why are we doing this? All good questions to ask if you are a parent.
It took me a few years to figure out what I wanted from being a Dad, but I think I’ve finally nailed it down. I want to raise strong, loving kids, that know who they are, know what they want, and aren’t afraid to go get it. In short, I want to empower my kids. I want to be clear though; I’m not trying to steer my kids into anything. I don’t have an attachment to their academic success or financial success. My ultimate goal is to help them live out the true expression of who they are. I want to trust who they already are, not some idea of who I think they are, or should be.
In trusting our kids, fully trusting them, I believe something magical happens. I believe that when we embrace, and celebrate our kids for who they truly are, they grow up feeling whole. Someone who feels whole, complete and enough is going to do good things. This person will do good things for herself, her community and for the world she inhabits. She will act from purpose, not deficiency.
Thinking about this helps remind me of how I want to be as a parent. It helps shape my actions. I want my kids to thrive, and kick butt… in the most loving way possible. At the end of the day, I want to do my part in helping my kids feel secure, confident and good enough. Aside from keeping them alive, this is my number one job as a Dad.