2018

When I finally stopped blaming my kids and my situation for my poor parenting choices, I felt a heavy weight of responsibility. These are the thoughts that ran through my head: “What have I done?” “Why is this so hard?” “Why can’t I control myself?” “Why can’t I be better than I am being?” “I…

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My children’s behaviour was really important to me. I saw it as a direct reflection on me. Well behaved kids equaled good parenting is what I thought. Poorly behaved kids equaled bad parenting. I have come to recognize this as an insecure approach to parenting and I’ll tell you why. What I thought was strong, turned…

Read more Ego Driven Parenting

I’ve been part of various groups, retreats and workshops. I’ve noticed an overriding theme that is consistent.  There is a culture of emotional safety, growth and accountability to each other.   In these groups, emotional safety is created through non-judgmental listening of others and the modelling of vulnerability by the leaders. Acceptance is high and…

Read more Supportive and Inspiring Places

Wouldn’t it be nice if our kids listened and then did what we asked? How is this more likely to happen? Here are some things that will help: Connect before you direct. Relate to and be interested in what your child is doing before giving instructions. Speak clearly and concisely. Choose your words wisely. Your words…

Read more Getting Your Kids to Listen

Here are the reasons children whine: # 1 Their needs aren’t being met, their tanks are low and they communicate their upset through behavior and tone of voice. # 2 There is a problem but they don’t have the knowledge, skills, or the option (or power) to fix it themselves. They communicate their upset through…

Read more Why Your Child Whines