Fathers, Listen to your daughters. Hear them. Really hear them. Spend time with them and be 100 per cent present. Ask their opinion on things. Listen to their no’s and their yes’s. From what age you ask? From birth. A little girl who has grown up being respected, valued, and loved will look for this…
My children’s behaviour was really important to me. I saw it as a direct reflection on me. Well behaved kids equaled good parenting is what I thought. Poorly behaved kids equaled bad parenting. I have come to recognize this as an insecure approach to parenting and I’ll tell you why. What I thought was strong, turned…
I’ve been part of various groups, retreats and workshops. I’ve noticed an overriding theme that is consistent. There is a culture of emotional safety, growth and accountability to each other. In these groups, emotional safety is created through non-judgmental listening of others and the modelling of vulnerability by the leaders. Acceptance is high and…
Wouldn’t it be nice if our kids listened and then did what we asked? How is this more likely to happen? Here are some things that will help: Connect before you direct. Relate to and be interested in what your child is doing before giving instructions. Speak clearly and concisely. Choose your words wisely. Your words…
Here are the reasons children whine: # 1 Their needs aren’t being met, their tanks are low and they communicate their upset through behavior and tone of voice. # 2 There is a problem but they don’t have the knowledge, skills, or the option (or power) to fix it themselves. They communicate their upset through…
SEL might be able to help. SEL is the acronym for “Social Emotional Learning”. SEL is an approach and framework being used to help children (and adults) acquire and effectively manage emotions. It is a skill building process that aims to increase one’s emotional intelligence. SEL programs result in improvements in the following areas: academics,…
Here are some questions and conversation starters that will encourage self-discovery, independence, and empowerment. 1. I trust you / I believe in you. 2. What do you think? 3. What did you learn from that? 4. Could I have your assistance please? 5. I’m not sure what to do about something. I’d like your advice.…