There are 3 things I have found that when paid attention to, dramatically improve the parenting experience. They improve the effectiveness and the enjoyment of whole experience.
1. Trust: Fully trusting our children, their readiness, their voices and uniqueness is absolutely imperative in creating secure environments of respect and acceptance that will go both ways. Trust is the foundation for loving and constructive relationships.
2. Self reflection: Coming to know your own sore spots and becoming aware of where you are most likely to get emotionally triggered will allow you to sidestep many power struggles. Instead of getting emotionally overwhelmed, this awareness empowers you to keep your cool and assume your role as a wise and conscious guiding force.
3. Curiosity: Becoming interested in the behaviour and expressions of our children, will allow us to understand their needs. “Why is he really acting this way? ” When we are curious and genuinely concerned about needs, it allows us to adopt a solution focused mindset. Approaching our children from this angle of “How can I help” creates mutually beneficial outcomes and teaches great problem-solving skills.